In life we choose to be the adult we become. Your childhood and teenage years are a time of trail and error but once you grow up and create a family of your own you must choose one of the two: to be just like your parents, an exact replica or better than your parents. Now if you parents were amazing people then I could see how you would want to be like them, but if they were far fetch from the definition of a great parent than why imitate what they are or how they were. What have you chosen to be???